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default616_0Hidden Words have Hidden Meanings.  Revealing your words in order to find the meaning is so much easier said, than done.  Our challenge is to learn how to find the correct word to describe our true meaning.  The first step is to give yourself permission to search the corners of your self that you have avoided in the past.
Searching brings out a fear in all of us but entering those dark places can allow us to emote, to share a bright burst of light through which a once scary topic brings out our courageous approach.  Trust is key, this is the only method in which you can allow yourself to have enough vulnerability to enter places once thought to be barren.  If we can trust that we possess the abilities to keep ourselves safe  we can  achieve almost anything.
Does this come with experience?  Could we just go right in with blind faith?  I guess that is all up to the individual.  Lately, I’ve been experiencing that I have the choice to be happy or unhappy — it’s as simple as that.  The simplicity of it all can also be pretty annoying.  It can be so tempting to play the victim, or throwing out the “yeah buts”.  Giving  ourselves the seal of approval to not take those chances due to our circumstance or facts that fit is too easy.
I’m not afraid anymore to dig deep for the words to emote the true meanings of my desires or fears for that matter.  Once I acknowledge them it’s like they don’t have any control over me anymore.  I’ve recently read the book “The Untethered Soul” by Michael A. Singer.  I highly recommend dipping into this book.  A good friend recommended it and it has truly blown my mind a few times over.  Without reciting the whole book, it just gave me the insight to just be in the moment of the triggers that occur and let them pass through like clouds on a sunny day.
Instead of putting up all this armor to protect yourself from the rain that will fall, you slowly start not to go out at all to prevent the potential of a drizzle from ever happening, we stop and forget to feel what that rain brings to us. Basically, we can run but we can never hide.  Like the cloudy day, is it really that bad to get a little wet?
Tears, like rain can nurture the soil of our souls and blossom beautiful flowers of Love and Opportunities our way.  They don’t say stop and smell the Roses for no reason.  With each passing cloud that comes our way, run out into it and know this is your opportunity to turn the soil of the bed you made for yourself.  It’s going to be ok, weeds will always sprout up, but as we know if you don’t pull it out by the root of the problem it will always find its way out again.  So those hidden words can be found out in the ominous clouds.  Discover the blossoming new meanings life can bring you.
Don’t allow yourself to stay dormant and be alone out in your Mohave Desert.  This will only have you thirsty for nurturing and being delusional by the mirages you see before yourself, that trick you into quick fixes.  I get scared, and I get frustrated, impatient like any of us can.  The thing that has changed for me, is the freedom and empowerment I gave myself.  This reassures me that I have the abilities to assess what makes me scared, frustrated etc., and have the insight to express them in a loving way.  This kind of freedom allows you to run free into the darkness knowing it will enrich you, challenge you, and help you grow.  Our words are like fertilizers, sometimes it stinks and it’s shitty.  Yet all the past experiences that organically have broken down in our spirit, can be used like enriched compost to tend to our gardens.  I’m excited for all of us to trust we have a green thumb, allow yourself to open up and get out there.  The sun will shine through the clouds and reveal the true abundance you seek at the end of your rainbow. 🌈
Editor – Anita Antonio 

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A friend recently told me there is some truth to the phrase “All You Need Is Love”.  I’ve been blessed to experience the shine of Love; not only from a lover, but from friends and family as well.  Brightness appeared when I stopped searching the darkness for a light bringing me to the realization that the light was shining within me.  Do you want to know why?  Well, I am that light I have been seeking all along.

Throughout my lifetime I never knew that I have been dimming my own inner light so as not to blind others.  Conditioned by societal fears and insecurities I pondered on what is safe or what is the “Right thing to Do”  which caused me to get caught up in second guessing myself and questioning my own authentic heart.  My insecurities brought me to a place of awkwardness for the Love I wanted to share with another plus even the act of accepting the Love of another made me feel exposed.  I associated my compassion and curiosity for people as neediness and weakness.  Once I recognized these feelings within myself, I was able to observe all the dimmed lights around me. We all have a tendency not to shine as bright as we are. Love is the dial that turns that light up. We must work from within to be able to access that switch. First, observe and admire who you are deep down.  Accept and appreciate that unique individuality that we all possess, and offer that special kind of Love to one another.  Holding that Love space for each other is like being a recharging station for one another.  We have the power to recharge our Love light within ourselves.  The key is to allow yourself to be silly yet deep, and vulnerable yet have boundaries.  With every encounter we can practice this kind of exchange with one another.  The mere thought of this has my heart bursting inside with joy and gratitude.

Take the time to bear witness to others stories and experiments with life.  Be open to possibilities that stem from the heart rather than the head.  Express feelings with one another, yet do not make another responsible for yours.  Open communication can be challenging at first and even a bit hurtful during the learning process. The more we refrain from passing judgement and allow each other to practice with each other, we can empower ourselves to respect the fact that we all working out our own stuff.  Having clear intentions while communicating is important and gives certainty that you are coming from a place of love and not attacking.  Maybe this way we can give each other a bit of a break and know it’s just a learning curve.  Each one of these steps just brings our authentic self forward without fear and brightens your internal light.

So, for instance, if you truly are doing your best to communicate your needs to someone and it comes across hurtful or blaming to them.  It is their responsibility to express how that felt, without finding fault in you.  Open communication is a learning experience where all parties have to participate with full trust and no fear. Basically we are holding up a mirror for one another to recognize how our words make each other feel; as well as reflecting their own light back to them.  It takes a lot of LOVE and courage to be honest with another person, and the greatest amount of courage to be honest with yourself.  You share a great gift with a person when you are able to have healthy boundaries and still can agree to disagree.  Being heard and respected with sincerity lends force to the light we shine. Think of your internal light as a spotlight …remember your mom always told you to be careful where you direct your flashlight as a kid?  Well it’s the same concept your not going to just beam that light into someones face without warning, be prepared that not everyone is ready for that kind of exposure.  This will take time as we mature into holding our light and others with respect. Judgement and expectations of others to receive our love are unrealistic, if anything it just blankets the truth and dims both of our lights. If we can take responsibility for ourselves as our own internal parent we can allow that shine not to feel so scary or mistrusting.  All we have is each other to express this burning desire to be seen and admired for that beautiful Love we all carry.

Do you know who you are?  Have you witnessed yourself lately?  Do you recognize the impact your presence has on your friends and family?  Do the homework cause you will be surprised how each one of us has a role in this crazy world.  It’s time to find yours.  I encourage and challenge you all.  Share your experiences, when you do you could be a guiding light for that Love to shine.  There are many people that feel the same way you do.  We are all little Love Fireflies.  When we unite, and share, we create a beautiful chain of Love that shines and helps light the way.

Editor – A Antonio

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